Sunday, October 31, 2004

The Good, the Bad and the Artist

There's this show on MTV called "Room Raiders". In it, a contestant would enter and look through the rooms of the different dates he could meet. It is a good concept. It gave you an idea of what kind of a person you would be meeting without having to judge them by their looks.

In the episode I saw, the three girls he had to choose from were called the good girl, the artistic girl and sexy girl. In the latter's room, he found fragrant lotions, skimpy underwear and a vibrator! LOL If I had been in his place, I would have chosen her!

But now that I think about it, I guess I would have chosen the good girl. I'd be too afraid that the sexy girl and I would have little in common. Same goes with the artistic girl.

Make-up!

It's funny how make-up can make an older woman look younger and a younger woman look older. Then, there are some instances that make-up will only turn you into a cheap prostitute or a Halloween character. LOL

I've always admired girls/women who don't need make-up to look good. I prefer the natural look. Later, I found out that the "natural look" still makes use of cosmetics but at a bare minimum: powder and lip gloss.

There's this girl at work who I think is pretty. But one day, she came to work with make-up on. It was faint; blue eyeshadow and red lipstick. I stared at her for a while. I guess she got annoyed and asked me why I was looking at her. So I told her I preferred her without the make-up.

She gave me a weird look and walked away.

Thursday, October 21, 2004

Therapy Session

I had an interesting conversation with a friend the other day. With his permission, I am sharing a transcirpt of that discussion in my blog. This has been edite though since I can't remember most of it, just the gist. As usual, he (or she) will remain anonymous, although our circle of friends would find out anyway.

S: I haven't gone out on a date in a long time. Maybe I should lose weight. What do you think?

A: I think you're trying to attract superficial people. So, I think that would be a big mistake.

S: How is that a mistake? There are a lot of good looking people having fun with other good looking people. I want to have some of that.

A: What you want is to get laid.

S: There's nothing wrong with that.

A: I didn't say there was anything wrong with it. I just said you want to get laid. I am merely voicing out what you mean.

S: I just think I would stand a better chance of going out with people if I lost weight.

A: True. But I wouldn't go out with you. Neither would the other guys we know.

S: I know that but still...

A: Listen, do you want to know the reason you don't go out often? It's because you only have 3 sources of exposure. Your work, your home and the mall. Now, pool all the people you know and tell me: how many of them are worth dating?

S: Not a lot. Okay, less than the fingers in my hand.

A: So it really isn't your looks that's the problem. It's the number of people you know.

S: So you're saying I should expose myself more? I did that a lot and I ended up being rejected just as much.

A: Tell me how you were "exposing" yourself to these people?

S: Well, I used to go on the Internet and into chat rooms...

A: The Internet?! Are you nuts? Do you know how many weirdos are out there?

S: Uh-huh.

A: I'm kidding. So, where do you usually meet these people?

S: In a chat room. I say hi and see who responds or I pick people from the list who look interesting then say hello.

A: And then?

S: We tell each other what we look like and then they stop talking to me. As soon as I tell them my weight, they ignore me.

A: Ok. So what's the problem? The way I see it, you just saved yourself from getting serious with someone who is superficial and probably a jerk.

S: Yeah, I know but still...

A: I think you have to widen your scope. What chat room do you usually go to anyway?

S: One night stands.

A: Oh, for the love of...

S: I don't go there now, ok? This was before.

A: I know but don't you see? That's why things are fucked up for you right now.

S: Hay, naku! You don't understand cause you're not gay.

A: Okay, then enlighten me.

S: It's just that it's so disappointing because...well, this is what I have to look forward to? Are all gay men like that? Most of the people I met were superficial, not to mention philandering. I mean, as soon as they get off, they tell me they have a boyfriend.

A: I don't have to be gay to know what the problem is and it's not because of your orientation.

S: Okay, then enlighten me.

A: Your problem is where you're looking. I mean, One Night Stand? Are you sure that's where you want to get your "role model"? Do you really think everyone there is a single gay man? The entire reason they are there is because they want to get off without any commitments. They're not looking to have a meaningful relationship. Why, you might ask? I don't know. Maybe because they already "have" one.

S: You have a point.

A: So if you do want to find someone special, look for them where you know you can find them.

S: I will. Thanks.

A: Ok, that'll be P200, please. I only take cash.

Tuesday, October 19, 2004

Christopher Keith and Fiona

There used to be a time where I didn't think about having children. It wasn't because I wouldn't be able to, but because I didn't want to have children. I suppose that's normal, especially when you're in college and your whole life is ahead of you. This is a point in your life where you're (mostly) responsible for yourself, more than anyone else. And that is a task - though somewhat difficult - I was happy to take.

But somewhere along the way, I realized I could be responsible for myself and for someone else. It was at this point I began to find out what love was. Not just romantic love but the love people share with one another; a feeling that drives you to take care of someone other than yourself for no other reason than to make them happy.

If you're lucky, you'll be able to find that special someone whose love will match your own. That person will share their hopes and dreams with you; you'll laugh and cry with them. Life may not be perfect for the both of you. But without them, living wouldn't mean a thing.

And just when you thought love couldn't get any better, it does. A new life, borne from that love, comes into this world. Those feelings you shared are made manifest in a being that is part of you both and yet whole in itself. And you feel nothing but love for this creature.

There was a time I didn't think about having children. But now, I've thought about what names I'll be giving them in case I do have them.



I just thought of something funny. My gift to my future children will be a good looking mom! LOL

Thursday, October 07, 2004

Love or Lust

I recently had an opportunity to end my membership with the VIP*. She wanted me to do it. Heck, she practically begged me to do it. But I said no. Why?

Was it because of a patriarchial organization's belief we should reserve ourselves until marriage?

Was it because of my fear of bringing life into this world when I was not ready to take care of it?

Was it because I didn't want to do it in a cheap motel where dozens of people have done it before?

No. I refused because of the stupidest, most naive reason of all. I denied an easy way to get off because a part of me is still hoping I'll find the one person who will appreciate the fact I waited for her. Someone I don't even know. Someone who may or may not exist.

Whoever you are, I hope you were worth it...


*VIP - Virgins for an Indefinite Period

Sunday, October 03, 2004

Waiting for you

Why doe sit feel like I'm always waiting?

Ever since I decided that I was ready for a romantic relationship, I've felt that I'm just waiting around. I'm not waiting for The One to land on my lap and start having an affair, but rather waiting for the person to get to where I am now emotionally.

It sort of feels like I'm at crest of a hill along a a worn path. I'm standing there, waiting for her to come take my hand so we can begin the journey together. I want to show her something beyond the horizon. Something wonderful and magical. But she's some distance away, unsure and afraid of making the trip.

I've already found someone I would like to become more intimate with but it seems that circumstance conspires against it. She's too distracted by things going on in her life and too depressed because of those same things. I've tried my best to bring her out of her mood. But in truth, the only person who can bring her out is herself.

All I can really do is be there for her when she needs me and wait to see if she does decide to join me...