"I just don't understand why, through all these years, you can't seem to accept my stand on that?"
"Because, through all these years, I've never seen you as anything but beautiful."
Some people need to shout, others do property damage. I prefer to write. It usually leads to profound ideas...and less chances of being sued!
"I just don't understand why, through all these years, you can't seem to accept my stand on that?"
"Because, through all these years, I've never seen you as anything but beautiful."
My phone has been acting strange lately. The other day, I was checking to see if I received any text messages. The screen showed that there were none but I decided to look anyway. I tried accessing the Inbox but it replied, "Sim not ready". Having owned two phones before this one, I knew that this was a common glitch in the system. For some reason, it cannot detect the sim card even if it was inside the phone the whole time. All you can really do is turn it off and on again.
Anyway, I waited patiently for it to reboot and tried again. This time, I was able to open my Inbox but the messages did not show who they came from. Rather, it showed the first few words. This is usually a sign that either the number that had sent the text message was not in my directory or it cannot read the directory.
So I scanned through them, recognizing all except one. The message began with: What is your..., and continued with "...problem?" No phone number or time of message being sent. I exited the Inbox and tried to access it again. This time the phone diretory was working so I could see who had sent me text messages. But the message itself was gone. I tried looking for it in the Inbox, Sent Items, Archive, Folders. Heck, I even checked the MMS folder just to make sure. But there was just no sign of it.
A friend of mine asked me to buy something for a girl he liked at my office. He wanted to give her something special to make her feel better at work. If you've worked at a call center, you'd know that we need all the special soemthings we can get. LOL Anyway, since the girl liked chocolates so much, I decided to get her premium chocolates.
At this time too, I was in love with a girl (not the same girl, mind you). But things weren't doing too well for us. It seemed that no matter what I did, she just didn't seem interested in me. We had become distant over the past couple of days. In fact, I was thinking of giving up and letting go. After all, this wasn't the first time this had happened before. I found myself in this same situation too, several years ago. It was only in the last two years that we started talking again.
Anyway, just before I went to the store, I prayed to God asked for what I should do. I said, "If I find her particular kind of chocolate at the store, I would get it for her and patch things up between us. If not, then I'll take it as a sign that I should just let her be." So I went to Mark's & Spencer's, found the chocolate for my friend. But there was no sign of it. I even gave it one last shot and asked the store clerk if they had some in stock but had yet to put on display. She answered no and that was that.
Frankly, I felt both sad and relived. Sad that things would have to end between us and relieved because I could get on with my life now. It should have ended there, but it didn't.
I went to the store next door and bought her favorite kind of chocolate there. LOL I gave it to her later and things are...normal enough now, I suppose. I'm back where were started. Stupid, huh? I guess because I didn't like the answer to my question, I decided to do something about it. Chances are, I'll fall flat on my face but that's a risk we all take anyway, right?
Today, I received some very strange questions from a friend. I answered them as honestly as I could and she seemed satisfied with my answers. Of course, they were more of a what-if-scenario. She wasn't really asking these questions of me but she wanted to know what I would say.
I've asked for her permission to put them here in my blog. Tell me what you think. I'd like to know what you would have answered as well as what you think of mine.
Q: What would you say if your girlfriend asked you to keep your relationship non-physical (i.e. nom-sexual)?
A: I would ask why and if her answer was valid, I would agree and do my best to keep my word. I don't think there is a reason for me to say no.
My friend was worried that her relationship with her boyfriend was more physical than non-physical. She wanted to have a meaningful relationship where it would be able to endure if they got separated. I suppose it's something a lot of couples are (should be) thinking about. "Are we here just because we have great sex?"
Sex is an important part of a romantic relationship. It is the epitome of expressing love in a physical level. But we all know that love isn't just physical. There's also an emotional connection, too. This is what poets and writers often describe in their works. Something intangible and yet so valuable. Without it, sex would be meaningless; a biological activity that you could do with anyone.
People - guys most especially - might overeact if their significant other asked them to limit their relationship to a non-sexual one. Especially if they enjoy. A lot of questions will be going though their minds such as: What? Why? Am I doing something wrong? Is she unsatisfied? Is she pregnant?
Just from that line of questioning, it seems that the partner is insecure. And this is the main reasonw hy they would freak out. My advice, if you're going to ask something out of the oridinary, don't wait for the other person to ask why. Say it - explain it - as soon as you ask.
My friend is conservative, by nature. She comes from a conservative family. And if her family or her other friends knew that she would be spending the night with her boyfriend, their reactions will range from shocks to frowns.
It's kind of difficult to answer her question. Thinking from a different perspective other than being her friend and putting myself in other people's shoes - such as her brother or her father - I would suffer from my own prejudices. But since I am her friend, Iw ould tell her to do what makes her happy but she should be prepared for any consequences.
Q: But if I say yes, wouldn't it be hard not to...you know, do it? Especially if I want to develop our non-physical relationship.
A: Of course it would be! Unlike where you two meet up and spend a few hours together, sleeping over at his place will give you the time and opportunity to do what you want without feeling rushed. But this would be also a good opportunity for you to see if he will respect your wishes.
I'm not one to encourage testing your significant other's sincerity. It seems wrong to set up an elaborate scheme to see what they would do. Not only does it seem like you are treating them like a science experiment, it also means you don't trust them to make the right choice. But this would be a good opportunity for her to see if their relationship has something other than just the physical aspect.
To me, this particular test has a different kind of significance if I were in the guys shoes. Knowing how I am, if I can spend a night with a girl without trying to have sex with her and she was even willing, then it could only mean I love her because it is very seldom for a guy to be content in just holding someone and watching them sleep. To be able to do that tells something of how the guy feels for the girl.
Seeing that I've got the night free because of my change in schedule, I decided to work on my blog. It's been a while since I've coded using html. The last time was working on my website for the Amphion City Role-Playing Game. It was supposed to be part of PBEM (Play By EMail) game for my friends where they could visit to check up the progress of the game as well as pick up some clues. The game itself would happen via email.
Speaking of games, I was able to spend some time with my friends this Sunday. It's a good thing my schedule changed because I was beginning to miss them and our weekly RPG session. I've also thought about running a game for them too. With the new game system out, I'll be on equal footing with them. Basically, we can learn together.
We just had a dry run of the game the other night and it was fun. Some of the rules were a little confusing and hard to find. But we slowly got used to it. Stayed up for a whole 24 hours because of it (work and play).
Well, I really should be getting back to making my site look better. I see that Seth has decided to update his blog. Cool. Here's to making more updates and unload all that crap once in a while. You wouldn't want to suffer constipation. Hehehe!
Hope you can tell me what you think of the improvements, everyone.
I woke up this morning to a phone call. A company wanted to know if I was still interested in being interviewed for a position. I obliged and said I'd be happy to and set it up for next week. I thought, this was cool. Even if I'm already being considered for the supervisor position in PeopleSupport, I should keep my options open. See, one of the things I hate about my job is not being able to get the schedule I want, which is Saturdays and Sundays off.
Later that day, I got a call from my supervisor who tells me that my days off have been changed to Saturdays and Sundays. I don't know why but I was thankful. Of course, I know it won't last for long. Knowing how fickle business can be. I will, however, try to enjoy it as much as I can.
I should tell the other company that my schedule has been changed. Though I have no idea what would be a better day for me to go have an interview.
My mom says that this is a sign from God. This is His way of telling me that I should stay with the PS. I don't really believe in signs. Namely because the ones sent by Divine Providence are not simple like traffic signs. In fact, they are often ambigous.
Okay, suppose that the latter phone call was God's way of telling me to stay in PS. So what was the previous one? In fact, what about the email I just received from a friend regarding openings in the company he is in right now? Is God changing his mind all of a sudden?
I'd like to think they are Road Signs and not Traffic Signs. The difference is that the former tells you where the road can lead you. Whereas the latter tells you where you can go.
I prefer being able to make my own choices. But I don't mind consulting the Road Signs every now and then.
Firstly, at around 3:10am today, an earthquake struck Metro Manila. I'm still trying to get more information. From what I know, the epicenter was around Bataan at intensity 6.2. Metro Manila experienced intensity 3-4. No damages have been reported so far. It lasted for less than a minute.
I'm checking on my friends by sending text messages. Some of them have answered back. Those who have answered say they're ok. Most of them were asleep at the time (I can only assume that the others who have not answered are still sleeping soundly).
My co-workers were at work on the 12th floor (I was at home since it was my day off), a little shaken up - both literally and figuratively speaking. Though it may have been weak, being inside a building 12 stories up would have made it seem strong). Luckily, no one was hurt.
Secondly, I'm working on the site. I've decided to make some changes to my blog as well as making some new additions. One of the most prominent is the title. It is no longer, "The Sword and the Rose". It's now called, "Rants and Raves." The former didn't seem to fit to what I wanted to write so I changed it into something that was more appropriate.
I've also decided to create a second site that will contain my fiction. I've decided to call it "The Terminal" after the movie by Steven Speilberg starring Tom Hanks. Why, you might ask? Well, like the movie, I see it as a collection of stories brought together by one man. Like a real terminal, it is only a way-point in a journey; small parts of greater whole.
Well, the sun's out. I should go to bed. Talk to you later!
If there is one thing I do not like to do, it is having my picture taken. I'm honest enough to admit that I am not photogenic. Some people were born to be in front of the camera. They may not be that good-looking but there is just something about them that clicks with the camera.
What I do enjoy is working on the other side of the lens - taking pictures of someone or something else. I don't have a special camera or equipment. Heck, I don't even know the difference between color saturation and gamma lighting. I usually make use of my phone's camera which, by photography standards, is mid range to low end.
My current favorite subject of photography is flowers. There's just something about a blossom that calls out to be captured in film (although with digital photography, this would be erronous since it doesn't use film). I suppose it's because flowers, like most things in life, change over time. Slowly, but surely, they make that inevitable way towards decay.
So what better way than to preserve that moment in time as a photograph? But seeing it is not enough. When I take a pciture of a flower, I usually take several and retain only the one that I like. And what I like is being able to invoke a certain kind of feeling in the viewer.
Flowers, for the most part, invoke three of your five senses. It's a tie between sight and smell. The third, one that is often unappreciated is touch. That's what I see to capture when I take a picture of a flower. I want the viewer to say, "I can almost feel the petals just by looking at it."
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Now, before you go wondering if I'm gay. Let me say something that I told my mom when she was about to say the same thing:
"I am not responsible for people's assumptions or their stupidity about me but I reserve the right to laugh at their mistakes because of it."
"It shouldn't be hard for someone to love you when they say you're a great person."
You can't have it both ways. As much as you'd like to keep things the way they are, they rarely do. Sooner or later you'll have to choose. Don't let fate decide that for you. There's nothing worse than a lost opportunity.
So make the move. Say what needs to be said. And let her make the choice as well. It's better for you to lose him or her now after making the choice than to wake up one day and find out that they're gone. You'll just hate yourself. Trust me on this.
If you're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't, you might as well take the consequences by doing the action. At least then, both of you will know that they were worth the risk of breaking your heart.